We could practice a little selflessness

I am a big believer in good, a very big believer. Yet I find it so funny that people remain close to so called friends who wouldn’t lift a finger if they were in need. What I mean to say is that hardly anything these days can just come from the heart like pure love toward another human being, giving a helping hand to someone and not expecting anything in return.

We live in a society where people only want themselves to benefit from money; time and many others that no one is really interested in the way things they do or say actually hurt a person or a peer. I am all for jokes I take a joke quiet well, I can insult a peer only if I know we have that level of understanding that the insult actually comes from the heart and not just because you are trying to be nasty.

It seems that we as a society have this attitude of completely misunderstanding a situation. I can tell you I have a hand full of friends, literally the amount I can count on both my hands, the ones that make effort for you or just check up how you are doing once in a while the ones you don’t have to speak to constantly but yet every once in a while will get a phone call to catch up and make plans in real life not just say that you need to make plans and then never come round to doing it. The diamonds in the rough that carry you through all life and its struggles and other exceedingly happy times.

I don’t like jealously, its something I can’t stand. The only person your hurting is yourself. The people I am talking about is the ones that decide to make other plans to spite you because something from work came up or you literally have a family members birthday to attend.  There is no other way to put it …but as the spiteful ones.  

Its taken me many years to figure out who these people are, but people who have any intention of doing something to hurt you directly after you’ve done nothing wrong is not worthy of being a friend in your life, friends should be their to uplift you, to tell you the hardcore truth that nobody would want to tell you but because they don’t want you to get hurt or make silly decisions and they will be open enough to give you their heart felt opinion.

I am not saying you need to be the perfect friend, I know we all have our flaws, trust me I have a lot where that comes from but does it really hurt you or the ones around you to be genuinely caring and loving without expecting to get that love or kindness back in any form.

Expectations are the main cause to people feeling upset, its not about how much effort the one friend puts in that the effort you show to the friendship should be the same. Its hard to find genuine people these days who are so open to giving so much love to others without any expectations but the one and only outcome being that they feel better about themselves for being a caring person and helping their peers out. I encourage everyone to be a little kinder, open, giving and mostly more understanding you really never know how much people appreciate it.

The future depends on what we do in the present - Mahatma Ghandi

As time changes life changes.

I was looking back on my previous blog posts and scrolled to my very first one, which was the one I introduced myself on and what I was currently doing and what I had planned for my future looking back I’ve noticed so much things have changed so much things I said I would be doing that I never did and some that has stayed the same over the years..

In this post I’ll be updating you on what I thought I would be doing versus what I’m actually doing just to give you some perspective of how life changes without you even realizing it yet it makes no difference to path you take to where you’d like to be in life .

In my first post I mentioned that I was going to further my studies at CPUT the next year after I finished my international Event Management diploma at prestige academy which never happened , I was planning to take a gap year as you would see in one of the blog posts I wrote a while after that and travel for three months backpacking, that also never happened. With all that being said it was for good reason, I wanted to get on my feet in the Event Industry and I thought travelling would just delay my process of doing just that.

So I actually started working for a sistering company to the company I did my internship at (Dish food & Social) called Black Zebra events at the beginning of this year , I stayed there for two months and then I started to work for my dad for a while, but I realized that working in the accounts section of my business was not my passion , I although did gain a lot of respect for  having this job as it’s not as easy as one seems . I decided to do a year’s work at the company I did my internship at to get a year of experience on my C.V in the event I in the future I am looking for a job at another company also in the event I didn’t start my own company and needed some sort of experience behind my name.

Starting my own company is one thing that has remained constant in all of this, I still strive to be successful in the industry I have a deep felt passion for as I know this is what I would enjoy, I don’t want to start to late even though I am 21 years of age I have a drive of wanting to be where I’m comfortable at a young age knowing it’s all because of the hard work and effort I put in to see my future company grow and expand..

The other thing I mentioned was I would stay in a flat in Cape Town if I studied further at CPUT,  I am staying in a flat but not because of studies but to be closer to work and not have to worry about traffic. I will however be moving back home next year as I will be renting space from my dad to start up my company which is again closer to Kuils River and our family home.

People often say that you never really end up where you think you are going to end up, but I don’t take that to heart I’ve had this dream since I matriculated and I can say I honestly took the road less travelled in studying what I have studied because people do not know what the event industry has to offer and how wide the job field with this qualification actually are. Not having everyone’s full support I passed my three years of studying with not a single rewrite only because it was my passion and I strived to achieve in those three years.

I also grew while studying, nobody saw me the way I was before yes I enjoyed school every bit of it, I excelled quietly, so quietly I never expected my parents to come to prize giving’s because I believed I would never get one ,grade 10 they didn’t come and that was the year I came home with two awards… hahhahaah (I underestimate myself all the time.) but I never excelled beyond my expectations as I did at Prestige academy .

 Becoming class rep for two years in a row and operations head of events the last two years of my studies wasn’t something I thought would happen when I walked into the door of the institution I thought I would always be a follower but that changed.

I might sound like I am boasting but I’m proud to say I’ve chosen an industry according to what I knew I would achieve in ,and I can say this industry as crazy as it might be was everything I dreamt it would be if not even more.

Some Inspirational pictures.. 

sometimes you need a different fish bowl. 

Keenen's belated birthday and other random things

The missing was terrible , after being able to see Keenen every weekend and some times during the week, two weeks of holiday away from him felt a bit long , no I am not an overly obsessed girlfriend but Keenen has become my best friend, the one who will point out how weird I am constantly and have no shame in being around me even though I am quite an odd ball..  Through the years I have never missed his birthday ,and I have always made it a bit special either by filling my car with balloons that I cant see out my back window ,or going for supper at one of our favourite restaurants. It was quite a thing to miss his birthday this year.

So I fetched Keenen on the 25^th of June after his exam in Cape Town, we dropped my bags off at the flat and decided to go for lunch I was  in the mood for a platter of seafood at ocean basket but as we were driving I was like hey why don’t we make this more special … We ended up going to Kalk Bay and sharing a platter there it was so yummy and it was the perfect way to  spend my first day back in Cape Town.

We went a bit further found a pick n pay because I needed to do grocery shopping….. I must add Keenen is the most awesome person to go grocery shopping with his better at it then me……

We spent the rest of the evening at the flat with some coffee and watched some series and snacked on some of the overseas goodies I brought back.The perfect way to spend Keenen’s Belated birthday with him .. 

Oh and on the 11th of July 2015 we will be together for four years......

 I love you babe :)  . 

Some pictures.....

Platter of seafood , we were to hungry to take a picture before we started eating.



Some random date pictures of before...mostly food because we both enjoy eating...

Local restaurant in Observatory one night after work 

Easy night in , series and snacks 

Sticky Fingers Monday Rib gatsby special.

Watching the sunrise at Rhodes Memorial the weekend before i left for overseas.

Travel Opens The Window To The World.

On the 11^th of June 2015 my family and I set out on a last minute journey to Ireland and  Mauritius.

At first I was not excited one bit, it was almost as if I lost my desire to travel … but as soon as I was roaming the streets of another country there was nothing I wanted to do more, realizing that I have been fortunate enough to go to 10 different countries in the space of 21 years.

It took 4 flights and 2 days to arrive in Ireland, from Cape Town International to Johannesburg International Airport, from Johannesburg International Airport to Abu Dhabi International, from Abu Dhabi International Airport to Dublin International Airport.

The reason for this random family vacation is because my cousin Simone Robertson (now Taffe) got married in Carlingford Ireland,that makes the reason not very random anymore,Our Last family vacation being Zanzibar 3 years ago.

If you know me well enough you’d know I do not eat airplane food something about it just doesn’t agree with me so I thought I would give it a go on this trip … and I just couldn’t stand it. I am not picky but for some reason various types of food makes me feel really ill.

Our first evening in Ireland we got lost on route to our accommodation … don’t even say GPS … GPS does not work in Ireland. So following a piece of paper with directions of where to go had to work. Except for us it did not.

We ended up having supper with my Aunt and Uncle near the accommodation they were staying in Ardee at a pub called Brian Muldoon & Sons, I had a delicious 8 oz. steak with a double vodka and lemonade, I don’t usually drink but when in Ireland do as the Irish do…

Oh and at this point we still had no idea where we would be staying, as we had not found it yet. My Uncle escorted us to our accommodation, which we eventually found in Dhonamoyne … it was absolutely beautiful … three words, cows, country and a cute little hillside cottage. I think that is when I fell in love with Ireland …it was perfect.

Saturday 13^th June, The Day has arrived, Alan and Simone’s wedding day. Yay!!

The Ceremony was held at a church in Ardee where Alan is originally from , after that we set off to our next location where we would also be staying the night, The Four Seasons Hotel in Carlingford … Food so much of it four course meal and then at  11 a buffet table with more food. The wedding was beautiful and really tied in the aspects of the Irish Background with some traditional Irish Dancing and river dancing.

I must say I thought the wedding would end when the sun went down. I was drained so I went to be early being 1am in the morning and yet the wedding continued to the crack of dawn the next day.

14^th June 2015, at the four seasons hotel the wedding quests attended a BBQ lunch which also carried on till early evening hours, We explored the town of Carlingford with the cutest little shops and bakeries as well as a Castle: D

We took a drive to surrounding areas being  Gillesquay which was a beach that had jelly fish that looked like they came straight from Sponge Bob,from there we went to Dundalk, which had a mall … a very bad mall where we grabbed some Starbucks and went found a shop called Primark .. which is like having the prices of Mr Price here but the quality of Edgars…

From Dundalk we went to Black Rock ,… why ? My  Uncle and my dad thought it would be a great idea to have some ice cream …it was freezing (but we had ice cream !!) my dad also tried some pesto and told the lady we would be back for more … which never happened. 

After all the exploring we had another Pub supper with the wedding guests in Ardee where I discovered fat frogs… fat frog is an Irish drink with contains smirnoff ice , KWD vodka and I cant seem to remember the third cider but it was soooo good.

15^th June 2015- MOMS BIRTHDAY YAAAYYY!!

Breakfast in Ardee at Muldoons & Sons pub for moms birthday ..We explored Cabra castle where My Dad and I had tea and scones with our pinkies in the air . My dad dropped Nicole and I in Carrickmacross which was the town we came upon by accident on the first day of arriving in Ireland, we explored the town walked its streets and decided to have a beer at a pub in the town …After all we needed to do that before we left otherwise we wouldn’t have had the full Irish experience , we got serenaded by two of the pub regulars with a harmonica and some Irish tunes and was ended  off with Good luck South Africa….

The Evening we went out for supper for my moms birthday at a restaurant called Dooley’s .. we got there at 8 and ended up staying there till past 12 the evening only because the sun was still up and the time thing throws you out completely it was lovely , Good Conversation was held , many jokes made and this was also the last time we would be seeing Simone and Alan for a while .

16 June 2015 .. We woke up and left early the morning we would be flying back to Johburg the evening and wanted to do some last minute exploring .My parents stayed at the airport and Nicole and I hopped on a bus to Dublin city , the place most people would go to first when they arrive in Ireland ,we literally went on our very last day … We explored Temple Bar and had some mc dees only because it was the easiest and the most suitable for our South African pockets.. We went on an Irish Whiskey Tour which was actually amazing and made me want to read up on Irish Whiskey history … Dublin city had many beautiful historical churches and buildings . We rushed around and ended the day off with two cocktails at the hard rock café.. and we got one for free …. Expensive but worth every cent literally …

The music sounded great in hard rock café and knowing me I went to check out their speakers around the restaurant … Bose and Yamaha everywhere…..

We took a bus back to the airport shoved all the gifts in my bag as it was the biggest they weighed the bags and mine weighed 29.8 kg the max weight being 30kg yay I made the weight limit by 200g….. ;//

We flew to Abu Dhabi then Johnurg , where we stayed over at lakeview hotel and the next day we flew to the lovely island of Mauritius …

18^th June 2015 we landed at Mauritius Airport on the North of the island .we got taken to our hotel on the South of the island via our hotels shuttles services, the drive was 1hr and 15 minutes long not far considering you are travelling  to the other side of the island.

We stayed at Le Mauritia hotel we took a half board package which included breakfast and supper each night as well as free snorkeling , a glass bottom boat ride and other various water activities . Each night had a different cuisine in the style of a buffet the first night we arrived it was Chinese cuisine which was amazing …after that we got some much needed rest

19^th June 2015

We had a briefing ,which we overslept for ….we took a 10 minute walk to town and had some seafood at a local restaurant which was so beautifully plated ,We lazed on the beach trying to catch a tan and then enjoyed a Mauritian style buffet supper which had lots of spices and a whole bunch of coconut infused goodies .The evening entertainment was some tradition Mauritian dances , which we got taught (cant watch face)

20^th June 2015

4 days till we went home meaning it was 5 days till I got to see Keenen … We went on the seven coloured earth tour which took us around the island through the nature reserve ,to a temple ,to a volcanic crater , the the remains of a volcanic eruption which left the sand in several different colours and is now preserved for tourists , We went to a waterfall as well as a rum factory called la chamerelle where we tasted way to many clean shots of rum and enjoyed a lovely three course meal … The bus drive back was filled with life and laughter after the tour and we made a stop to view Clam island as the land around the ocean is in the shape of a clam . We had coconut cake with is basically dried coconut mixed with water, sugar and some coffee it tasted like heaven on earth!!

The evening we had A South African cuisine buffet that consisted of lots of barbequed and red meat items. we decide to go to the hotels downstairs club, more amazing good quality speakers playing in your eardrums , not a painful sound but clear volume .we danced a bit and then sat outside chatting before heading to bed.

21^st June 2015

 We went on a glass bottom boat the morning and then explored the Grand Bizaar I got a henna tattoo and went tubing ,and the evening Nicole and I went for a Hot Stone Massage and then We met up with another South African couple for an A la Carte meal at the hotel . We watched the band play and had an easy night in.

22^nd June 2015

We went tubing … AGAIN  and rested the day .. We were at this point sore from walking and wanting to do everything we possibly could with time we had.

23^rd June 2015

Nicole being he adventurous one out us wanted to do this thing called sea kart …. Basically in essence it’s a little boat very little boat with a jet ski engine in it and you go over waves and stuff like that…basically like a miniature version of a speed boat … I went with her and one of my biggest fears is water any water … I Almost drowned when I was little and I think ever since I’ve been a bit scared … that and the fact that you  don’t know what creatures are lurking beneath you ..that being said there was a stage we were deep in the middle of the ocean where the ocean isn’t clear anymore because its so deep its actually dark dark blue where we had to turn our little jet ski boats off and I freaked out was okay being in the boat as long as it was moving but as soon as it stopped I freaked out ….

So then we stopped in the middle of the ocean in this little seakart … I was happy when we were allowed to move again but on our way back Nicole took a sharp turn where I was facing the water and I remember it so clearly it was not sea weed it was not a shark or fish it was a thing three times the size of our little sea cart next to me …… I could’ve peed my pants right there…. I was just thankful when we arrived back on the Island safely and I was on land. I’m not sure what it was is but I thought it had to be a whale the thing was huge!!

On our way back we stopped at Port Louis Waterfront, the waterfront of Mauritius we had some prawns and cocktails before heading b back to the hotel

Supper that night was an Indian buffet.

24^th June 2015

Good Bye Mauritius ,you,your people,your friendliness,kindness, and honesty will always be remembered. Although I was a bit saddened by the fact it was time to leave already I was missing my own space a bit … I got converse today yay and some souvenirs for my momsly and then packed all the last things and then off to the airport we went…

I wont bore you with the flights back to Cape Town , but what I took from this experience is that I love to travel and the bug has hit me once again…this experience has opened my eyes to seeing that I cant work just to live comfortably I need to make an earning good enough to be able to travel … you can pay for so much things in this life …but there’s no amount that can be put next to experiences.

  And I  for one Plan to experience different countries quite a bit 

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